Awakened

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She startled awake.

A loud, thunder bang on her window startled her into a semi-conscious state. No, she thought it couldn’t be. Again the loud thud on her window came. She glared at the time 4am. Awoken now busting for the toilet she ran for it. A louder bang on her window came. Then loud thudding on her door. She ran from the restroom to the front door. Anxiously and reluctantly she opened it. Furious with what she was greeted with. Her boyfriend swayed, so potent with bourbon the smell intruded her nostrils and burnt. She swiftly moved as he thudded face first to the ground laying at her feet.

For over a year she had been trying to end things with this alcoholic this was the final straw. He had driven over 10 miles in his intoxicated stat. It was over. Well, so she thought…..
In the months after he followed her, watched her every move, pursued her, begged her. And at one stage entrapped her within his arms only being freed when a friend intervened. This was no way to live. And then, abruptly it ceased. It was finally over……

Freed, she walked confidently into the party, she had a slender build, with intense eyes. She was attractive and moved with grace. She walked in and immediately caught his attention and he, hers. The electricity was instant – attraction an absolute. They introduced themselves and so something began……

Mid Week Dating Quote 2

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Quote of WK 2

Kind of semi amused I read this and dreamed of ‘Sex & City’…. “Carrie Bradshaw’s evening ended at his luxurious hotel…. Waking up, she finds that the man has left her a considerable sum. Appalled, she calls up her friends and they discuss the power of sex.”

With this one I was offered $400 per visit and told not to be offended it was ‘just’ that he found me attractive…. Meanwhile back in the land of reality I had just been offered to be call girl, a prostitute.

I did politely decline and suggested that he called a service which specialized in this area.

Attraction is a strange thing and exist on multitude of levels and yet now I feel that with online dating we have become a catelog item – choose your favorite based on a pic and a few words.

 

 

M L

Green Shower Cap – When dealing with your ex

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Don’t get dress up for your ex!!! Yes that’s right I am telling you to do the exact opposite…

So many times have I had women say to me and I quote “when you see your ex make sure you are looking your best, make sure you are dressed to impress and make sure you have your make up on”. Each time I can only respond with WHY??? I am totally and utterly confused by this notion and it’s not a notion that only my friends and family share. A simple google will bring up a pile of articles supporting this and again I sit and I cringe…. Why oh why must I impress someone that I don’t want to be with???

Bewildered by this notion I often ask, why? Some women have stated “because you want them to want you” and other stated “because you want them to release what they have lost”. I cringe, I really truly don’t want either. He is my ex for a reason and I don’t want him to want me nor do I want him to release what he has lost.

I am so not interested in my ex or for his opinion of me and really truly don’t want for him to want me to the point that today when he dropped my kids off I greeted him in a green shower cap (I had a hair treatment in in my hair). I also had a track suit on) so very unflattering and everything that I have been totally advised against and you know what I don’t care! I don’t want him and I especially don’t want him to me!

So ladies and gentlemen who feel the same and really couldn’t care less about what their ex wanted or didn’t want – go on give it a try – put on a green shower cap for when you next have to see them at very least it will make you laugh!

M L

 

Mid Week Dating Quote 1

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Quote of WK 1I share the above snapshot in good humour….

So do women really use online dating for attention? And are men really this needy?

Note this is only a small section of our conversation but I was rather surprised by this conversation the impression that I got from him was that  by him belittling me he would somehow make me want him? No, I viewed it as someone who was unhappy and needed some different approaches to happiness. I wished him all the best in finding this happiness.

I’m after a capable adult who is happy, mutual, honest and respectful…

M L

 

 

Online Dating

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M L

Recently I thought I would give myself a social challenge…

I really had a negative view with regards to online dating. How could I not my ex was using it as a forum to assist with his cheating. A few years on after separation and I wanted to explore this negative view point – was it something that I had created based on my ex or was it something that I just didn’t like.

Over the next few months I will be exploring and trailing online dating through the various sites.

I have also had countless conversations with male friends and I was very interested to find that between them, they each shared similar views regarding online dating. A number of these men stated that women received an abundance of attention online from males and that males had to work hard and ‘like’ sic a lot of women before any would reply to them. So with this, I have also asked some of my male friends to assist with this blog and share their view points and experiences.

If anyone has any girl/guy questions please feel welcome to ask.

Also if you have any challenges you would like to throw my way I welcome them – let’s explore and see what will come of them.

Feel welcome to throw in some different perspective I’ve asked a few of my male friends to assist with their opinions.

M L